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Ok, everyone.  Black Friday is almost behind us.  NOW, they will all receive a Form Letter, as issued and Mandated by the Commandant of the Marine Corps. (Mind you he is way high up in the rare air in the Pentagon).

In it you will read such good stuff and info meant to soothe you, that your precious little children are going to be fine, and this task they seek to achieve is not all that difficult.....

And also,

If you have any questions or concerns, these are the names and numbers of their tender and most loving Senior Drill Instructor.

And Also, in the same (trying not to laugh) breath you will read that Your Recruits can get All kinds of good stuff, Like candy bars (Power Bars) and Gatorade and cough drops, and bobby pins, and .....


Isn't that Just WONDERFUL?  Isn't this going to just Be so Much Fun at Camp CUCKOOMUNGA, and aren't they so neat to let me call and check on my Recruit?  Oh, And let me Send my baby a case of his/her OWN peronal powerbars that he can share with his Friends if he wants to, because Number One I want To HELP MY RECRUIT.



Let's get our tailfeathers out of Washington DC, and Back to The Ground OF Parris Island, South Carolina and MCRD/Camp Pendleton, Ca. 

As it ALWAYS IS, in the High places, and FAR AWAY from REAL, and with no concept of What it is truly like on the Ground, but quite cognizant of the press and public stances required.......


THEY ARE WRONG.  IT is A Form Letter.  ONLY.  It is not what Your Son or Daughter is Telling You (which is ALL that Truly Matters), it is What "They Say".


Now, having said that, no need to get upset, because it is also going to be okay, and they will do fine and succeed.  Not because of powerbars, gatorade bobbypins,or coughdrops.  They will be OK, ONLY because of the ONE thing, and ONLY Important thing the Form Letter does not mention:



Cut thru the crud.






Now, as to the rest?  The candy and such?


Wait until you hear from Your Recruit.


I know, everybody gets the letter and wants to run to Sams, and Buy a Hundred bars for everybody.....I WANT TO HELP SO MUCH......




Repeat:  NO.


Marine Rule One:  If you run to the sound of the guns you can get hit by Friendly Fire!




Ground Intel.

Each Platoon is run differently.  Each SDI KNOWS the BEST way to Make This Group of recruits into Marines.

And Each Group needs different things in order to accomplish that task.

Their Decision.

Solely and Completely.

Not the Pentagon, Not a "Manual", and certainly not the Opinion of any other human being on this Planet.

THIS is the Creed of the Drill Instructor:

United States Marine Corps Drill Instructor Creed

"These recruits are entrusted to my care. I will train them to the best of my ability. I will develop them into smartly disciplined, physically fit, basically trained marines, thoroughly indoctrinated in love of the Corps and country. I will demand of them and demonstrate by my own example, the highest standards of personal conduct, morality and professional skill."


In Honor and with the deepest respect, for those who I believe are the Finest Marines on the Face of this Planet; Who, together with their wives and family Suffer the Long Hours, and the MOST Unenviable Job in the Corps, as SDI/DI's and are considered veritable DEMONS (until the Very end when recruits become Marines and they UNDERSTAND) I would like to offer what I believe they Might Say, in their Own Words, if they were speaking to the Parents and Loved Ones of their recruits, if they were allowed, but it is not their way. 

(And Also, I would like to give this for my Father, an SDI at the time of his passing in 1962--what I think he might have said to me, as a Dad...) 

"I, and I alone, as the Senior Drill Instructor of this Platoon of Men or Women am 100% Responsible and Accountable for the Success of making These Recruits Marines.

I and my Fellow Drill Instructors are also 100% responsible and accountable for failing to detect and protect those that are NOT Marines, and that could in some future time DIE (yes, die) Because I Failed to recognize their inability or teach them what is necessary and required to Survive ANY situation, both Physically and Mentally.

I Hurt too much when I see one of "Mine" on the roles of those that go before us.

THAT is The Seriousness with Which I as Senior Drill Instructor, take MY Duty to your People.

And So It will BE MY WAY, since in the end, if I Fail, it will be OUR Tears.  Therefore I will be the One that decides what IS and Is NOT required.

I will be the One that will tell Your People what they can ask you for, not because a letter says so, but because I SAY So.

And IF YOU will Trust Me, and Believe in Me and OUR Corps, I will return to you, not a child, but a United States Marine."


So, please wait until your Recruit sends you a letter and KNOWS what it is they can have and Need.

If they don't need anything, Don't need to send anything.


BUT...Like I the beginning of this all,


DO SEND Your Letters.  Of faith and strength and pride.  Of Courage and Belief and words of God or man that show in times of incredible difficulty how it is their Personal Strength and WILL that shall get them thru this and ANYTHING.

For this is what they seek to Become: A Marine.  No small task.

A United States Marine

And a Marine gets thru it, because WE CAN.  It is What WE DO.  And We go on. 

And it is Hard.  So Incredibly Hard.  But, somehow, someway, no matter what it is, THEY get thru it.  And Go On.  And Become and ARE, on that Day of Days....

A United States Marine.  Always and Forever.


And Make em Laugh every now again, with a whack funny story, that is off the wall and too true to be made up.

Sometimes we REALLY Need to Laugh Too.


Long one I know, but I hope some get thru it all.


Call it the Words of an Old Marine with Young Marines on Board.


Semper Fidelis = Always Faithful



VPF/VPAF of 5 United States Marines

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Comment by Dylmarine21 on August 21, 2015 at 10:36pm
Thank you for this comment. I like I'm sure other parents want to do just WHAT YOU SAID NOT TO DO! THSNKS FOR THE INFO
Comment by hol0524 on January 9, 2015 at 12:48pm

asolutely beautiful!

Comment by 1~Nanny (Alice) on October 22, 2014 at 11:22am


Follow the "Rule of Thumb" and do not send anything but letters in a plain white envelope until your recruit tells you differently. Do not be afraid to ask him questions on what you can and can not send. Each SDI runs his own ship, so even if the form letter says to send... don't.

You can call your recruiter on next Monday, after Black Friday, and he may look up the platoon number for you.

The address only needs 3 basic items to  get mail to your recruit.

Sample Address
RCT. Last Name, first, Middle Initial
## RTBNPLT xxxx Co. xxxx
Parris Island, SC 29905-xxxx

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Comment by Anthony's Mom (Anita) on October 22, 2014 at 10:19am
I am a little I need to wait for the form letter in order write my recruit? Also, am I able to send anything for Thanksgiving or Christmas?
Comment by Bradsmarinemom on August 21, 2014 at 3:57pm

WolfDragon - I think I read a small part of this somewhere on this site.  It was very impactful, but not as much as the whole!  Thank you for addressing the important information with both seriousness and humor.  My son is graduating on 10/10/14 and I can't wait to meet my new Marine!

Comment by 1~Nanny (Alice) on February 23, 2014 at 8:51am


'RULE OF THUMB"... if they ask for an item...SEND IT, other then that only send letters (lots) in plain white envelopes. Happy Posting.


Comment by Proud Rct Mom on February 23, 2014 at 7:29am
You're very welcome and welcome to the recruit family!
Comment by Melindalee on February 22, 2014 at 11:57pm
Thank you Proud Rct Mom!
Comment by Proud Rct Mom on February 22, 2014 at 10:36am

Melindalee, yes, that is correct.  Only send specific items your son asks for in his handwritten letters to you.  The form letters say you can but that is really up to the DI's and some do and some do not.   If your son wrote and said not to send bars and stuff, DO NOT send them because they can get in trouble for things sent if the DI told them not to have it.

Comment by Melindalee on February 21, 2014 at 9:17pm
My letter said not to send anything like bars etc...I had read not to unless they said to. Is that correct?

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