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In an article called helicopter parenting in recruitparents.com ((see link below) there is a letter from GySgt Kohler (Paris Island). It knocked me hard between the eyes and made me take any wishy-washy, hovering parenting desires I was tempted to entertain and kick. them. to. the. curb.
I wasn't, by any means, a perfect mom -- but I was a pretty good one. For 18 years I was able to love and comfort him when he needed it. I was able to be there when he fell, pick him up, dust him off, and point him in the right direction. When he was sick, I could nurse him back to health. When he was angry, I could listen. When he was naughty, I could correct him. But he's out of my reach now...and it's a GOOD thing.
I did all I knew to do to prepare him for where he is today. Now is the time for me to cut the apron strings and allow him to become the man he is meant to be. A United States Marine.
Is it going to be easy to stay strong? No. Will I enjoy knowing when he's suffering? No. Am I glad the DIs are in his face and pushing him beyond what anyone should have to endure? You bet. Some day, it may save his life. So...
When he's up, I will rejoice with him.
When he's down, I will encourage him.
When he wants to quit, I will redirect him.
When he's discouraged, I will remind him that failure is NOT an option.
And when he graduates, we're going to celebrate like crazy!!
Afterall, "your sons," Kohler says, "are the next generation of war fighters VOLUNTEERING to defend our nation, and others, in this age of terrorism and oppression across the world. They will become tougher, both in body and mind, as training progresses. Expect it. Welcome it. Revel in it. . . Make no mistake about it; your sons are the future of this nation. Treat every letter you write like communist propaganda. Think very carefully what you WANT to convey, then proof read to make sure it's the message you ARE conveying. Semper Fi!"
Semper Fi, indeed.