Maybe I'm just being a Dad tonight but I'm heading home tomorrow (Sunday) to see my Marine who flew back with friends today. I noticed she was online at midnight after telling me she was in dire need of much needed sleep. We chatted on Facebook, and she mentioned needing to stop going into a "parade rest" mode when she's asked to relax...

Maybe some of the veterans of previously minted Marines might be able to shed some light on this subject: What are the side effects of those on leave from boot camp? While I am tempted to contact her recruiter and get her back with other Marines as much as possible, I want to get in front of her in order to assess the situation. Any medical personnel out there who are familiar with the above topic or am I making this out to be more than it is?

I will do some research on this to see if this is worth pursuing. In the meantime, I would suggest Parents should pay special attention to their Marines for signs of falling back into habits you wouldnt generally expect of a new Marine. Right now I am only concerned about my daughter being placed right back into the civilian world without so much as a transition period. I guess I would have preferred she immediately moved on to MCT as the transition phase as there is more of a mentoring attitude as opposed to the stricter performance and adaptation driven Boot camp.

Let me know if Im just a paranoid Dad. I love my daughter and am impressed with how far she has come to date, and I don't mind if she would prefer to do close-order drills with her brothers on hasty retreat. I just want to see her etvthe rest she needs, but remain sharp as sheheads to MCT IN 9 days time.

Best,

Joe

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Joe

You are in the Normal.... I'd like Abri to head right baxk into training, but they have the resources under their belt. i am sure your worries are just a normal thing... Abri knows what she did.. she views 'civi' world as scraggly" looking people now... that's a plus.. she once ran with the scraggles!!! Your Jessica will be fine.

Joe,

I am right there with you.  Our innate parental need to protect our chidren will never go away.  They have been completely isolated from the outside world for a long time, and being thrown back into it is a scary thing.  I plan to talk to Andrea and her sister (for backup and reminders) and share what we were told during the orientation briefing.  I talked very briefly to Andrea on our way home - we haven't had any time alone yet - and reminded her that no matter where she is or who she is with she is a Marine now.  She assured me that she knows where she has been, and where she HAS to be from now on.  Still, the Mom in me will remind her often while she is home.  Old habits and people can tarnish our newly minted Marines too quickly.  I'm glad she has been in contact with her recruiter already (even though he had to make the initial contact) and that she will be on recruiter's assistance for a while before she goes to MCT. 

I think our support group on this site will continue to be a huge help! 

By the way it was GREAT to meet you - and the other parents, even though I thought I was meeting you when I met someone else haha...  It was very nice to connect and put faces with the names. 

 

Good evening Group & welcome back from graduation!

 

I think what some of you may be experiencing with your newly-minted Marines is not that unusual, at least not from my 4+ years of being a moderator of recruit groups.

 

Many Marines, when they first arrive home, are so anxious to meet back up with friends and do the things they have been dreaming about for nearly 13 weeks that they seem to "attack" those activities at a frenetic pace. 

 

I have experienced the jump back to the "old ways" and it was short-lived.  I believe that your Marines have already changed and experienced things & situations that their civilian counterparts cannot understand.  Many will find their old friends boring, "stuck" and concerned with things that really aren't that important in their minds.  I suspect you will shortly find your Marines texting and calling their friends from boot camp-- all anxious to reconnect.  Don't be surprised if your Marine tells you this (as our son did)-- "Don't get me wrong, I love both you & Dad, but I really miss my family, my Marine family, and am anxious to get to SOI to be with them."

 

Stay attuned to their activities, but remember they are young adults who need to reconnect with their friends, make emotional adjustments and prepare themselves for the next step of their journey.  They will be o.k.

 

 

Donna (1~Donna from WI)

Boot Camp Moderator

2 Marines (deployed & stateside)

  and 1 civilian

Standing on Psalm 91:11

I'm sure the kids will be okay, but what about us?

Kat suggests its time for me to move on and get back to the business of running the business. I'm scheduled for a block of time with my shrink regarding Newly-Minted Marine anxiety. I lost 8 lbs during bootcamp, and I figure I can lose at least 5 more lbs during MCT!

Best,

Joe

Joe,

You will be o.k. too.  I think it takes us, on the outside looking in, longer though.  We don't have that immediate connection with what's happening, nor do we readily understand all of the Semper Gumby (always flexible) that seems to happen in the military. 

 

My most vivid Semper Gumby experience was our son's first deployment to Afghanistan-- he didn't get pre-deployment leave because he was assigned a secondary billet that required additional training and no leave was granted to him.  His actual deployment date changed several times in 3 months and 5 times in the last 10 days.  We knew he was actually leaving when he called us from the flight line at Cherry Pt (engines screaming in the background) and he yelled into a friend's cellphone "I'm leaving, I'll be safe and don't worry." 

 

During those seven months I slowly came to realize that I really would be o.k. and the journey has gotten a little bit easier (and I've had one more deployment completed-- his wife, and he is gone on another one right now).

 

Your group may wish to start another discussion group to stay together for the next part of your journey (SOI).

 

 

Donna (1~Donna from WI)

Boot Camp Moderator

2 Marines (deployed & stateside)

  and 1 civilian

Standing on Psalm 91:11

 

 

 

Joe!

 Abri, Is LREADY SAYING, HER FRIENDS ARE 
STUCK
 SHE CONTINUES TALKING ABOUT BOOT CAMP, AND THE FUNNY STORIES OF THE DI'S ...... SHE WON'T WEAR HER DRESS BLUES IN A FAMILY SO SO RESTAURANT, IT HAS TO 'UPTOWN" PLUS I THINK SHE'D BE A BIT EMBARRASSED HER BOYFRIEND IS ONE OF THOSE SCRAGGLY LOOKING KIDS LONGER HAIR, A SIZE JEAN TO BIG, NICE KID, YOU GET THE PIC? SHE CONTINUES HOLDING HER BEVERAGE, IN THE "TRIGGER FINGER "POSITION" SHE WONT WEAR A PARTICULAR ITEM IF SHE IS CAUGHT , TROUBLE.. "REGULATIONS" REGULATIONS" I THINK ABRI IS READY FOR HER NEXT LEG... I WORRY ABOUT HER MIXING WITH THE "FAMILIAR" HERE AT HOME, HOWEVER, SHE KNOWS SHE US GOV'T PROPERTY...I THOUGHT SHE'D BE CONDITIONED TO WAKING UP EARLY, NO WAY, SHE IS SLEEPING IN 9 YESTERDAY NOON!!! SORRY FOR THE CAPS I REALLY AM NOT YELLING  I AM TYPING IN THE DARK AND WAS TO LAZY TO RE DO.... UNLIKE MARINES.. I HAVE MY FLAWS, WILL GIVE ME A FOCUS FOR ME TO "IMPROVE" MY COMPUTER  SKILLS!!!

 HANG IN THERE!!! )FUNNY TELLING YOU THIS!) KELLIE

Pass this along to Abri when she thinks her wearing her dress blues might be too dressy in a family restaurant. One day she will be immersed in being a Marine, and shining her light wont be a thought in her mind. All kids need to know what they, in fact, have done, and will do in the future. And they might as well enjoy the well wishes from the adults who recognize the accomplishments as well as their dedication to service. The younger adults need to see Abri's light. Let me stop here.

Abri, if you get an opportunity to read this, I fully recognize what you are doing for myself and others. Thank you for your tireless efforts. Regardless of the challenge that lies before you, Never, never give up. You know its in you to persevere. Dont let someone smaller than you tell you otherwise. Those who try are envious of you. Their sights need to be raised.

I constantly remind my children about this particular poem by Marianne Williamson:

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.' We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

Abri, to you and yours,and the country you choose to serve, I remain "Semper Fidelis"

Joe

Joe,

We were told at Family Day that new Marines should not drive alone for 48 hrs. We drove home w/ our new Marine and found he would just stop talking. Looking into the backseat of the car, he was asleep.

 

Yesterday, husband drove Marine over to see friends, friends brought him home. He talked about how he doesn't think he'll be going over to see them again. It's not the same. They are no longer in the same place. We told Marine that while he has grown in maturity, they haven't. I felt bad for him, but I thank God the MFN informed us this was coming. It helped us respond.

I'm seeing some of the same things. Andrea is not in a hurry to go anywhere. She's enjoying just being home, and Donna is right (as always). By the time we got home, all she wanted to do was connect with her Marine Corps family - from platoon friends, to other Marines she knew before she left, and those still in dep.
They have achieved so much and conquered so many things together. It's good they have each other!

Kristi has also just been relaxing, wants to be at home with her family. She has been messaging her friends, most have moved on to college or are already in the military. Has met up with her recruiter and is helping with their PT days and going to the high school with her recruiter at some point this week while she is on leave. With the snow we have up here I think she looks forward to heading south again just for the warmth!   

Peyton visited his old high school yesterday and was asked to speak to classes, mainly the ROTC classes.  He also was asked to help with their drill practice yesterday, which he very much enjoyed.  He is resting some, spending time mainly with family though, and helping do things around the house without being asked.  He enjoyed going back to church to see everyone there as well.  But, it seems he will have more than 10 days, he may be delayed to around 30 days, which we are concerned about.  Are your Marines delayed before SOI/MCT? I am worried, because as we were leaving Parris Island Peyton commented how he was already missing his fellow Marines. Maybe his time helping his recruiter will be good though during this time.

Hope everyone is doing well! 

Kelley

Okay. I'm feeling better now. Jess told me last night most of her friends are away at college. She feels as if the world she left over three months ago had come to a complete halt, while her new world was a whirlwind. She is still getting acclimated to her environment here, and today she is going to watch a "I Love Lucy" marathon and nap. She is spending as much time with her brothers, and we will head on out to watch her 14 year old brother play basketball at school this afternoon.

Just a few days left before she heads out to MCT. And afterward, Band School in Virginia.

Best,

Joe

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