Son has been in MRP for approx 1 week.  Letters are getting progressively worse!  I'm willing to take what he says with a grain of salt, but it's getting to be a whole salt shaker!!  Says the conditions there are awful, the power has gone out, water has gone out and air conditioning goes out frequently.  Instead of training of any kind, they clean - a lot.  Everyone there had the opportunity to call home except him - I think that's the part that's bothering him the most, the rest is just all piled on.  Does anyone have any suggestions as to how we can boost his morale?  I thought they did that at MRP but it doesn't seem to be the place for it.  Thanks for any advice.  (He's considering RSP just to get out of there and that is just not like him!!)

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what is he in MRP for?  My son was there for 10+ weeks so I know how stressful you feel.  After the initial shock of leaving their platoon is over, they must come to grips with their situation and decide to make the best of it.  Have him hang around the motivated recruits.  My son never called me while he was there but wrote once a week.  My whole family rallied around him and sent him mail every day..every day.  There is alot of down time while they are in MRP, but they take classes and have bible study to stay busy.  There were over 60-70 recruits in the MRP during my son's time.  That is alot!!  There are injuries every day there.  I can promise you this, your son will heal and make it back into another platoon!  This is fact.  Keep writing him positive letters and remind him why he joined in the first place.  Before you know it, you will receive the call from him that he is ready to return to a new platoon.  Keep the faith!  My son spent over 5 months in MCRD and graduated with pride.  You will see it happen!

I agree with suzanne5...keep writing letters, every day, and advise him to hang with the motivated recruits.  My son was in EHP, and he said MRP/EHP are the toughest places on Parris Island, mentally.  Suzanne is right, if it's only the first week it will get better.  They do have speakers come in, my son had some extra classes, they went on "field trips" to the museum and occasionally watched a fun movie and ate Doritos.  He talked to so many recruits from all phases and learned from them.  He's made more friends in there!  He feels more prepared for the rest of training because of the advice he's received.  It's not what he came there to do, but if he tries to stay positive, time will pass and he will get to go back to training.  (My son's first DI is now the new MRP DI and he's great, if that makes you feel any better).

This is just as hard (or harder) for the parents because we don't know how they are, we have no control over their care, and we just want to be there for them and encourage them.  I had to PRAY A LOT, and trust God to take care of my son (because really, what would I do if I were there?  He's the only one with real power to help).  God gave me strength enough for each day, for 11 weeks.  Today he got to go back to training.  I'll pray for you and your son, too.

Back injury - was only there about 2 weeks when he got transferred out.  His twin brother is still with the original group of guys they left with so that's making it hard, also.  We've been writing him everyday, and I will tell him to find the motivated guys that are more upbeat.  I'll pass along all your advice - and I told him to get off the painkillers ASAP 'cause those things will mess with your mood.  Thanks for the boost - I think I need it almost as much as him!

My best advice is to call his recruiter an to have the recruiter call him. The recruiter can call an speak to him, give him advice, encourage him and it will make a world of difference. I have done this for my son who is on his second time in MRP. His recruit called him both times an then called me to let me know he was doing much better after their conversation. Its important to write about life at home,and to send funny stuff...jokes, funny stories you had or family had happen. It helps them laugh a little bit. There is lots of cleaning, just busy work to keep them busy. Also tell him to talk to other recruits, it will help him get use to being in MRP. Right now being only a week he is probably upset that he cant be with the others training an disappointed this is normal.  Send pics to him, they are allowed to read so you can send books that dont have any military conection. car mags are good. crossword puzzles, word searchs you can print them off the internet an send them. Just remind him that he is strong, and he can do this, to hang in there an not to give up...cause he will be stronger after going through this lil set back.

 

it will be hard on you also, but you have lots of us here that have been or are going through this and we will encourage you too...

That was my son, sadly to say he is waiting to board a plane to come home as I am typing this. The letters I and his family had sent are sitting in his old platoon, the letters that would have helped, now I am worried to see what kind of kid I have, he doesnt take failure well. Good luck to you, I will keep you and all of the recrutes in my prayers.

My son was in MRP for 6 weeks.  You might want to contact the Chaplain if you haven't already.  He talked to my son and called me back.  He also gave me the address to MRP so I could write.  Best wishes to you all. 

 

Send all the motivating letters you can.  They can get magazines (double check with your recruit first).  I had kids at the school I worked at write letters wishing him well. He did have to open the big envelope in front of his DI and was a bit embarrassed until the DI told him how much those letters meant to him while he was deployed.  My Marine still has those letters two years later.  Hang in there. Your recruit will make it through. The only phone calls we got were the one when he got dropped and the second when he was picked up by his new platoon.  Perhaps the Chaplain can help.

Thanks - I called the recruiter yesterday and didn't get a call back.  I definitely get better results from him when I go into the office, which I will do today.  I keep writing him and I ripping out pages from "Uncle John's Bathroom Reader" to send - nothing serious, just random jokes and facts he can pass around.  Everyone's support here has helped me, and that helps him so I'm grateful for it all.



dressbluesmom said:

My best advice is to call his recruiter an to have the recruiter call him. The recruiter can call an speak to him, give him advice, encourage him and it will make a world of difference. I have done this for my son who is on his second time in MRP. His recruit called him both times an then called me to let me know he was doing much better after their conversation. Its important to write about life at home,and to send funny stuff...jokes, funny stories you had or family had happen. It helps them laugh a little bit. There is lots of cleaning, just busy work to keep them busy. Also tell him to talk to other recruits, it will help him get use to being in MRP. Right now being only a week he is probably upset that he cant be with the others training an disappointed this is normal.  Send pics to him, they are allowed to read so you can send books that dont have any military conection. car mags are good. crossword puzzles, word searchs you can print them off the internet an send them. Just remind him that he is strong, and he can do this, to hang in there an not to give up...cause he will be stronger after going through this lil set back.

 

it will be hard on you also, but you have lots of us here that have been or are going through this and we will encourage you too...

Kathy,

I'm so sorry to read this.  He and you are in my prayers, too.  I don't think of any of these kids who come home are failures - they have attempted something almost all of their friends and peers won't even try and sometimes they just get the wrong injury or illness at the wrong time.  Please remind him that failing at something doesn't define him as a failure.  I for one am grateful and thankful that he was willing to defend me, my family and my country.  
Kathy3310 said:

That was my son, sadly to say he is waiting to board a plane to come home as I am typing this. The letters I and his family had sent are sitting in his old platoon, the letters that would have helped, now I am worried to see what kind of kid I have, he doesnt take failure well. Good luck to you, I will keep you and all of the recrutes in my prayers.

I will call the Chaplain today.  I'm going to the recruiting office - again - today, too.  I do have the MRP address so he should get mail quicker now.  I've been sending the address to everyone I know and begging them to drop him a short note.  The advice and support is great - thanks so much!!



azproudone said:

My son was in MRP for 6 weeks.  You might want to contact the Chaplain if you haven't already.  He talked to my son and called me back.  He also gave me the address to MRP so I could write.  Best wishes to you all. 

 

Send all the motivating letters you can.  They can get magazines (double check with your recruit first).  I had kids at the school I worked at write letters wishing him well. He did have to open the big envelope in front of his DI and was a bit embarrassed until the DI told him how much those letters meant to him while he was deployed.  My Marine still has those letters two years later.  Hang in there. Your recruit will make it through. The only phone calls we got were the one when he got dropped and the second when he was picked up by his new platoon.  Perhaps the Chaplain can help.

Even though my son is done with MCT and flying to his SOI today, I still come back to these message boards time and time again.  This is the place where I needed other parents encouragement and knowledge about MRP.  If it wasn't for them, I would have been a mess. Mom531...you are never alone!  We will be here for you as long as it takes.  The Wednesday night before Family Day, my son went back to MRP to talk to the injured recruits and give them hope.  He remembers when another Marine came and told them to keep the faith. He wanted to continue that message that was given to him.  Marines do not leave Marines behind.  That is their strength.

Thanks it means alot. I know my sons journey in the Marines is done. You are correct in stating this is a journey most will not ever understand. Thank you for that statement.

I wish everyone the best and hold you all in the highest reguards. I will pray for all of you (and I wasnt a prayer befor, lol). God Bless and stay safe.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



mom531 said:

Kathy,

I'm so sorry to read this.  He and you are in my prayers, too.  I don't think of any of these kids who come home are failures - they have attempted something almost all of their friends and peers won't even try and sometimes they just get the wrong injury or illness at the wrong time.  Please remind him that failing at something doesn't define him as a failure.  I for one am grateful and thankful that he was willing to defend me, my family and my country.  
Kathy3310 said:

That was my son, sadly to say he is waiting to board a plane to come home as I am typing this. The letters I and his family had sent are sitting in his old platoon, the letters that would have helped, now I am worried to see what kind of kid I have, he doesnt take failure well. Good luck to you, I will keep you and all of the recrutes in my prayers.

Suzanne,

 

Thanks - the messages really do help.

Susan

suzanne5 said:

Even though my son is done with MCT and flying to his SOI today, I still come back to these message boards time and time again.  This is the place where I needed other parents encouragement and knowledge about MRP.  If it wasn't for them, I would have been a mess. Mom531...you are never alone!  We will be here for you as long as it takes.  The Wednesday night before Family Day, my son went back to MRP to talk to the injured recruits and give them hope.  He remembers when another Marine came and told them to keep the faith. He wanted to continue that message that was given to him.  Marines do not leave Marines behind.  That is their strength.

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