My husband will be returning soon from deployment and he missed every holiday and occasion this year... our 1st wedding anniversary, christmas, valentine's day, his birthday... I wanted to get him something for homecoming, but I'm stumped!!!  I've been getting little things along the way throughout deployment, but I feel like he deserves something nice!  Ideas??

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Perhaps consider having the house decorated for Christmas (and Valentine's Day!), complete with a small Christmas tree. If you have been compiling all the little things during deployment, what about wrapping them in Christmas, Valentine's Day, birthday and anniversary wrapping paper, and putting them all under the tree or in their own "special theme" places?

When a dear friend of mine returned from his second deployment to Iraq I hosted a Christmas celebration in July for a couple of his fellow Marines. We decorated the table with Christmas linens and china, and I bought each of them a small gift. We lit a fire in the fireplace, had holiday spice potpourri to lend the aroma of winter, and played Christmas music as his fellow Devil Dogs entered. I prepared a complete traditional Christmas meal, the one they had missed during their deployment.

As for "something nice", if you put a big bow on yourself, I believe that will be the nicest gift of all. :)

my husband missed several things while he was deployed last year. I knew he really wanted a nice grill so that's what I got him. My husband while he likes romantic gifts here and there he prefers practical gifts. congratulations on your Marine coming home soon!

sad that he missed every occasion this year but great news that he will be home soon. the gift? that's a tough one. i was thinking maybe a weekend getaway for the two of you, something like a spa weekend that would be relaxing for him. (not sure if he would want to leave home again to go away for the weekend after just getting back from deployment) then another thought i had was re-doing something at home, like his favorite room where he relaxes. maybe a new comfortable lazy- boy chair by the tv. it's hard to give ideas because i don't know what he likes, maybe an engraved watch with a special statement. well i hope this helped a little  good luck

I am not an expert. I am not married to a Marine. My advice comes from what I gathered from conversations between my daughter and myself after their (not his) first year deployment. Do not plan a menu, what he wants may not be what you think he wants, now that he is home all bets are off. Something nice may be just driving home slowly. When I was driving them home he mentioned my speed ( I was at the speed limit but MRAPS? etc. go alot slower) Quiet time, (decompression time) Stay by his side always, ( a Marine never leaves a Marine behind and you are his most important Marine) Be flexible, (Semper Gumby). Enjoy the first hug when he gets on board and be sure he remembers that feeling, it will carry the both of you if the transition home is rough. The things you have collected are fine and he will enjoy them....... the something nice will be home in your arms, to have someone who will be patient, and understanding. Didn't mean to go off, just some stuff. Bless you and your Marine, Semper Fidelis, that says it all!!

I agree with you on "Semper Gumby" time, dadsplace. :)   We didn't plan the big social gathering until weeks after redeployment. By then, they were back into a "routine" following their post deployment leave. Flexibility, patience, and understanding is so important.  Oorah to all returning Marines! :)

dadsplace said:

I am not an expert. I am not married to a Marine. My advice comes from what I gathered from conversations between my daughter and myself after their (not his) first year deployment. Do not plan a menu, what he wants may not be what you think he wants, now that he is home all bets are off. Something nice may be just driving home slowly. When I was driving them home he mentioned my speed ( I was at the speed limit but MRAPS? etc. go alot slower) Quiet time, (decompression time) Stay by his side always, ( a Marine never leaves a Marine behind and you are his most important Marine) Be flexible, (Semper Gumby). Enjoy the first hug when he gets on board and be sure he remembers that feeling, it will carry the both of you if the transition home is rough. The things you have collected are fine and he will enjoy them....... the something nice will be home in your arms, to have someone who will be patient, and understanding. Didn't mean to go off, just some stuff. Bless you and your Marine, Semper Fidelis, that says it all!!

I agree...definitely be flexible..I wouldn't do anything either that requires a schedule...everything has been scheduled for them for so long, they want to have the freedome to do what they want, when they want for a while!  I am sure whatever you decide will be great...and honestly a huge jump into his arms, a hug and a kiss will probably be all he needs!

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