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Hello everyone I am new here, I am also very new to the USMC boot camp life style. My boyfriend of 10 months left yesterday about 24 hours ago on his plane to go to Parris Island for boot camp. And I know this past 24 hours was probably hell for him, and it was for me as well. My boyfriend and I have been in constant communication for the past 10 months and after he left all communication has stopped. I spent all day with him yesterday up until it was time for him to get onto his plane and we said our goodbyes. I tried so hard not to cry but knowing I wouldn't be able to see him again for the next 13 weeks made me break down. As soon as I watched him walk though the doors to his plane I lost it. After that I went to his house and his mother let me take some of his clothes and belongings to help me these next 13 weeks (and of course I took ALL of his hoodies!). But it seems like every time I feel like I'm going to be ok I remember and I cry again. I know its normal to be upset especially the first few days but how do I take myself out of this slump? How do I make myself feel better about everything? I also got his one phone call last night at about 10PM. I don't know if his mother just didn't answer or what happened because I got the impression he had to call his mom. I did answer and It was rough because the only thing I got to say was hello and by the time he was finished I had no time to say I love you because he already hung up. But hearing his voice helped me sleep though the night. Knowing that its 13 weeks makes me even more upset. I am suppose to get his address Friday from his recruiter, that way I can write the letters I have written these last two days (one when I got home after he left yesterday and one from this morning). I also wrote him 3 letters 1 to open the Friday before he left, one to open his last night at the hotel, and 1 for him to read on the airplane. I have had a rollercoaster of emotions this past 24 hours. And if anyone has any advice for how to deal with my emotions or another question I have unanswered is when I will get his class, and battalion number? I was told I need to have those two numbers to find out online how he graduates. Is this true? thank you all for your time and I will be on the look out for any replys.

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if he just left for PI, I can give you his Company & Battalion number, I cannot, unfortunately give you his Pltoon number. You will either have to get that from the Recruiter or wait the 2 weeks from Sunday to get the Form letter in the mail.

http://marinefamilynetwork.com/group/mcrdpi2

He is 2nd Bn, Golf Co.

I hope that you have let his Mom know that you got the call.

As to how do you make it through? You stay busy. I mean really, really busy. And if you can learn a new skill, for example, learn a new language, how to repair a toilet (silly, I know), how to fix a special meal, anything that forces you to concentrate. Get a part time job, if you are already working, ask for more hours, if you are in school, then really hit the books. It is ok to go out with friends, it will give you stuff to talk about in your letters. Be warned that you will get a fraction of the letters you send ack from him. He has 1 hour per day, a little more on weekends, in which to take care of personal stuff.Here is a blog I think might be helpful to you.

http://marinefamilynetwork.com/profiles/blogs/boot-camp-advice-from...

Thank you so much for the information, I did message his mother and tell her I received the call, as well as posing it on social media to tell his whole family and friends he arrived safely. To go along with the Bn and Company number, how do you know this information? I'm not trying to be rude and definitely do not want to come off that way. Also his recruiter told me he would be able to message me this Friday with his address, would that be correct? And also when I receive his address will that contain his Pltoon number in it? sorry to attack you with questions I just feel like I was left with conflicting information.

alex2toes said:

if he just left for PI, I can give you his Company & Battalion number, I cannot, unfortunately give you his Pltoon number. You will either have to get that from the Recruiter or wait the 2 weeks from Sunday to get the Form letter in the mail.

http://marinefamilynetwork.com/group/mcrdpi2

He is 2nd Bn, Golf Co.

I hope that you have let his Mom know that you got the call.

As to how do you make it through? You stay busy. I mean really, really busy. And if you can learn a new skill, for example, learn a new language, how to repair a toilet (silly, I know), how to fix a special meal, anything that forces you to concentrate. Get a part time job, if you are already working, ask for more hours, if you are in school, then really hit the books. It is ok to go out with friends, it will give you stuff to talk about in your letters. Be warned that you will get a fraction of the letters you send ack from him. He has 1 hour per day, a little more on weekends, in which to take care of personal stuff.Here is a blog I think might be helpful to you.

http://marinefamilynetwork.com/profiles/blogs/boot-camp-advice-from...

I went to this official website,

http://www.mcrdpi.marines.mil/Graduation-Info/2017-Schedule/

And I counted 13 fridays from the day he left, which makes it June 9th. The class scheduled to Graduate on June 9th is Golf. Then I went to

http://www.recruitparents.com/bootcamp/mail.asp

and gave you the links to our support groups.

Some Recruiters do not know about this site and the service we provide, so it may have been that, or he may have been speaking in general terms because I cannot give you your bf's plt. Number, but the Recruiter can. Also, when you get the letter from you bf, check the address in the form letter against what the Recruiter gave you. Occassionally Rcts. can be moved in the first week.

Here is a link to guide you in what his address should look like.

http://www.mcrdsd.marines.mil/Recruit-Training/Contacting-a-Recruit/

Here is just some general information about mail to recruits.

http://www.recruitparents.com/bootcamp/mail.asp

So yes, when the Recruiter gives you his address, it will contain his Co, Bn, & Plt, all the information for you to mail those letters.

Thank you so much! I just looked at the list and it said if he left March 13th (and he did) he will be graduating June 9th. I've been so stressed since he left due to not knowing any of this! I have been in touch with his recruiter and he told me he will have an address for me Friday. So as of now its just a waiting game.
alex2toes said:

I went to this official website,

http://www.mcrdpi.marines.mil/Graduation-Info/2017-Schedule/

And I counted 13 fridays from the day he left, which makes it June 9th. The class scheduled to Graduate on June 9th is Golf. Then I went to

http://www.recruitparents.com/bootcamp/mail.asp

and gave you the links to our support groups.

Some Recruiters do not know about this site and the service we provide, so it may have been that, or he may have been speaking in general terms because I cannot give you your bf's plt. Number, but the Recruiter can. Also, when you get the letter from you bf, check the address in the form letter against what the Recruiter gave you. Occassionally Rcts. can be moved in the first week.

Here is a link to guide you in what his address should look like.

http://www.mcrdsd.marines.mil/Recruit-Training/Contacting-a-Recruit/

Here is just some general information about mail to recruits.

http://www.recruitparents.com/bootcamp/mail.asp

So yes, when the Recruiter gives you his address, it will contain his Co, Bn, & Plt, all the information for you to mail those letters.

You are very welcome! Don't ever appologize for asking questions.

These first 2 weeks are some of the worst. You will feel better once you get his address and can start writing.

Have you found the wives, fiancees & girlfiends group?

http://marinefamilynetwork.com/group/recruitwfg

Thank you! Sometimes I feel like I'm alone, it helps to know others are going through this or already have gone through it. I started stressing because he doesn't know my address and he brought an address book and I found out he would of had his address book taken away from him when he arived when All his recruiters told him to bring an address book. Some of it is stressful. I'm doing my best to stay strong for him. But I always jump to the worst conclusion sometimes. I know I will feel better when I get his address so I can send my letters and start getting his letters.


alex2toes said:

You are very welcome! Don't ever appologize for asking questions.

These first 2 weeks are some of the worst. You will feel better once you get his address and can start writing.

Have you found the wives, fiancees & girlfiends group?

http://marinefamilynetwork.com/group/recruitwfg

You don't know that he had his address book taken away. People think that because it happened to their son, daughter, bf or gf, that it is true for everyone and it is not so. Do not jump to conclusions, do not listen to the people telling you negative things. Have you ever notice how people love to come running to tell you negative stuff? You will have enough on your plate getting through Boot, you do not need to put up with that too.

Hang in there. He will have to send the form letter to someone, you or Mom. You will get his address, it will happen. Stay focus, stay positive, stay strong.

Thank you so much!


alex2toes said:

You don't know that he had his address book taken away. People think that because it happened to their son, daughter, bf or gf, that it is true for everyone and it is not so. Do not jump to conclusions, do not listen to the people telling you negative things. Have you ever notice how people love to come running to tell you negative stuff? You will have enough on your plate getting through Boot, you do not need to put up with that too.

Hang in there. He will have to send the form letter to someone, you or Mom. You will get his address, it will happen. Stay focus, stay positive, stay strong.

I've had more people comming to me with bad information that makes me feel sick to my stomach. This time is was a story about how every girlfriend gets a sad letter from their boyfriend at boot camp about how much he misses you and he can't do it. How do I deal with all of the bad information? What's your advice? I got his address today and sent out my letters to him.


alex2toes said:

You don't know that he had his address book taken away. People think that because it happened to their son, daughter, bf or gf, that it is true for everyone and it is not so. Do not jump to conclusions, do not listen to the people telling you negative things. Have you ever notice how people love to come running to tell you negative stuff? You will have enough on your plate getting through Boot, you do not need to put up with that too.

Hang in there. He will have to send the form letter to someone, you or Mom. You will get his address, it will happen. Stay focus, stay positive, stay strong.

There may come a time when he will have self doubt. We all have doubts at one time or another. In the world of Marine Boot Camp, this period of self doubt is known as "Hitting the Wall". Here is a blog bout that.

http://marinefamilynetwork.com/profiles/blogs/the-wall-they-hit-and...

Now how do you deal with these people? Thank them for their concern & then ignore them. They do not know your recruit, not like you do. So why would you listen to them? You need to stay true to him. You need to assure him you have faith in him and then YOU NEED TO WALK THAT WALK. 

Great that you got his Addy! Oh boy he is gonna be a happy, happy dude when he gets them!

Something else I think I should point out is that it is a sign of trust when a recruit writes home and tells things. Things like I can't go on, or, I think I am going to wash out. See, here's the thing, DI want them to succeed. Think about this, it is a DI's job to get a recruit through boot and in shape to pass on to the next phase of military life. It makes no sense for a DI to try to make them fail. No sense at all. Stuff maybe hard and it may seem impossible, but everybody gets it eventually. And that is where the pride comes in; they have been pushed to places they didn't know they could be push, hung on by their fingernails, jumped in the water with their gear, thought "I just can't" a million times, and they still do. Can we do any less?

This group is helping me a lot! Thank you for all the advice. I will be sure to read that blog! I appreciate everything, it means a lot!


alex2toes said:

There may come a time when he will have self doubt. We all have doubts at one time or another. In the world of Marine Boot Camp, this period of self doubt is known as "Hitting the Wall". Here is a blog bout that.

http://marinefamilynetwork.com/profiles/blogs/the-wall-they-hit-and...

Now how do you deal with these people? Thank them for their concern & then ignore them. They do not know your recruit, not like you do. So why would you listen to them? You need to stay true to him. You need to assure him you have faith in him and then YOU NEED TO WALK THAT WALK. 

Great that you got his Addy! Oh boy he is gonna be a happy, happy dude when he gets them!

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